I am suspicious that my wife has cheated but she denies it vociferously. The evidence is circumstantial but overwhelming. (e.g. Once she was worried about being pregnant during a period when we weren’t having sex, another time she was giddy with excitement over the small size of this cute guy’s dick she knew, and yet another time I found a condom in her purse, and so on.) She had a good explanation for the condom being there and I believe her – but nonetheless it was still there.
She is very attractive, very naive, and very moral- she really is (church pianist since 13, virgin until me, etc), and says things like "You are the ONLY guy I ever had sex with in my life." I personally think there is a good chance she’s in denial about this and has fooled around, (rubbed genitals, play with hands to orgasm, etc.) – but never let anyone bury his cock in her and c*m, and therefore is ok with saying she never had sex with anyone. Another part of me says that she really is being honest and is someone special, is that possible?
I have been unfaithful and in no way do I feel like I have the moral high ground. In fact early in our marriage and for sometime thereafter the shoe was on the other foot and I was the one giving unbelievable excuse. I’m not sure she ever got over that and has totally refused to have sex with me for the last few years. At any rate, my current desire is for both of us to come clean and start anew building mutual trust. It’s not what she may have done that bothers me but the fact that I think she’s being dishonest that does. I could forgive her I’m sure no matter what she has done. However, when I try to talk to her about this she gets livid and says that all I’m doing is accusing her and claims once again that she’s never done anything to come clean about and if I want a marriage everything is on me. I am willing to go to counseling but she isn’t.
"she was giddy with excitement over the small size of this cute guy’s dick she knew"
How does she know this?
"totally refused to have sex with me for the last few years"
Not healthy. She is cheating.
"I am willing to go to counseling but she isn’t."
End of story. You are guys are done within 2 years. Stop wasting you time.
So anyhow I got a little bored tonight and red a post about how to try and have an orgasm I have a boyfriend him and I have sex like four times a week at least used to be 3 times a day and i’ve never had an orgasm so tonight as I said I tried I played with my clit like hardcore I got this unbelievable awesome feeling my heart started pounded felt like I had to pee after I wanted to scream it felt so good then I kinda got numb and it tickled was that an orgasm I’ve never had one and have always wondered . Because that felt awesome! I’ve never felt that way before
Hi, I’m very confused lately. It might be obsessive toughts due to a huge lack of confidence or self listening but 3 months ago while I was working, I started to ask myself a million of questions including questions about my sexual orientation. I dug in the past to find the answers and I just couldn’t figure out what was wrong. I did masturbate once in my life while I was thinking about a guy as far as I remember but it wasn’t sexual … it was some kind of challenge-fantasy towards the same sex … I have a girlfriend and I love her to death. I would never break her heart. I quit my job because everyday I would come in start looking at mens in a different way and even check them out. But when I have a good day and I keep myself busy, I don’t think about those things same when I’m with my gf … But lately, I would have weak orgasm … less libido … less confidence … I would find myself stupid to everything I do wrong … it’s unbelievable how low I am :s … I ordered those enlarge-your-penis-pills cuz I feel like I’m not horny enough. My head is a real mess. I’m curious, unsatisfied even tho I got the best I always deserved. I use to be 200pds and girls would push me away. My ex never gave me a lot of pleasure either so maybe I’m sexualy frustrated … I don’t know what’s going on anymore. I use to go to gay clubs with my gay and lesbian friends without being uncomfortable but now just being around my gay friend makes me feel like I need to think I’m gay too … Could it be just a phase ? I’m 21 and pre-matured so I think I’m having my period of questionning. HELP ! I have these weird questions lately uh … I hate hanging around guys …
-I often imagine myself doing it with a guy but I don’t know if I’d feel confortable doing it …
-I’m very paranoid in general
I honestly think you’re WAY too paranoid. If you read what you wrote, you will notice two things:
1) You keep questioning yourself when you know in your heart that you like women.
2) You feel sexually frustrated.
You know, when you fear something and keep questioning yourself about it, of COURSE you’re going to trick yourself into thinking that you’re something you’re not. You’re scared, honey. Don’t be. Look into your heart and be truthful with yourself. Put your fear aside and don’t let it rule you as it is doing now.
Oh and by the way, just because you look at guys and check them out does NOT necessarily mean you’re gay. hahaha Girls do that all the time to each other and it means nothing. It’s just appreciating someone’s beauty. =) This applies to you, I believe.
I haven’t masturbated ‘out of my will’ for months…I don’t watch porn (there’s no computer/tv in my new house)…I am not exposed to women that much…Yet, every day during sleep, I find myself with an ‘unbelievable’ erection that just will not go away! everyday! So at around 2-4 in the morning, I find myself masturbating just to get rid of this uncomfotrable erection.. It’s so weird because I don’t even feel orgasm, I don’t even think about sex, it’s just this erection that’s really annoying me everyday…Why is this happening, how do I avoid this??
Its called "morning wood". No i did not make that up, its natural for teens. Its not a sign of anything, it doesn’t mean that you need to rub one out whenever you have one or just spank the monkey more. its just caused by teenage pituitary hormones in the brain, it goes away eventually. your not alone at all dude
Kegel Exercises Help Experience Better Sex, Fight Incontinence, and Have A Healthy Body
Kegel exercises are designed to tighten vaginal muscles. Many women and men do them to control incontinence. However, women also do them achieve greater performance and gratification during sexual intercourse. For women, orgasm often arises from the controlled movements of these muscles. Kegel exercises can also stimulate clitoral orgasm, which eludes many women.
Likewise, many women perform kegels after having babies because vaginal deliveries strain these muscles. Women also perform them while they are pregnant in order to condition their bodies for childbirth. For expectant mothers, kegels are widely known to ease discomfort during the later stages of pregnancy. Also, kegels greatly facilitate childbirth and hasten childbirth recovery.
Kegel exercises are not an alternative therapy, but are recommended by many gynecologists. In fact, many women first learn about kegels through their gynecologists, after they complain of bladder weakness or vaginal looseness.
Many women are confused about kegel exercises. They are not complicated, but consist of repeatedly tightening and relaxing the pelvic floor muscles surrounding the pelvic bone. In order to locate these muscles, women may first try to stop their urination midstream. If they find they can?t control the urinary stream, it is likely they have weak vaginal muscles.
Before women start their kegel exercises, it is recommended they empty their bladders for maximum comfort. Each exercise consists of contracting, holding, and releasing pelvic floor muscles. It is recommended women use resistance weight to produce stronger results. Resistance usually comes in the form of dumbbells or other weights that are placed on top of the pelvis during squeezing repetitions.
Kegelmaster, furthermore, is an example of a vaginal exerciser. It consists of a specially designed weight that is inserted into the vagina and pushes against vaginal muscles for strength-training. Many women report excellent results with Kegelmaster because it directly stretches vaginal muscles. They do not report any discomfort with the tool and claim it fits them naturally.
In actuality, women need to perform kegel exercises properly in order to see good results. In fact, doing them improperly may actually worsen their problems. One introductory kegel exercise is periodically stopping urinary flow to work vaginal muscles, though it is not advised to do this repeatedly. Women may also use vaginal weights, such as Ben Wa balls, that are inserted the into the vagina for squeezing. Moreover, women may simply insert a finger into their vaginas and squeeze their muscles tightly around the finger. Whatever the tactic, doctors advise women to do ten repetitions of kegels three times a day for best results. These exercises often become much easier as women continue to do them, which leads to greater sexual pleasure and bladder control.
Even women who report no sexual or continence problems can benefit from kegels. Doing these exercises will greatly help women prevent incontinence and bladder problems. Though women may not experience these problems now, it is likely they will in the future unless they build vaginal muscle.
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Kegel exercises have been practiced by women for decades to help prevent and correct incontinence, improve the muscle tone of the vaginal opening, and improve their orgasmic response. Unfortunately somewhere along the way, the original way that Kegel exercises were to be performed got lost along the way. The original exercises used external resistance. The ones most women do have no external resistance. This is largely due to the fact that there is no resistance available in most cases.
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Especially after the birth of a baby, many women begin to experience adverse effects such as incontinence, loss of sex drive, more difficult to achieve orgasms, and loss of muscle tone, resulting in a less tight vaginal opening. But even if you have never had a baby, age naturally starts to effect the vagina.
Basically, what I am saying is that every woman should owns and use a Kegelmaster.
* Improved sexual intimacy
By exercising the pubococcygeus muscles, the muscles become stronger and tighter. The result of this new found muscle tone is a tighter vaginal opening and more resultant friction during lovemaking. This improves the sexual stimulation of both partners.
The improved muscles tone also means better muscle control. Men whose partners have used the Kegelmaster report that they have been brought to orgasm by the simple act of their partners contracting and releasing their muscles around the penis.
* More intense orgasms
Most women never experience a vaginal orgasm. However, after the use of the Kegelmaster, many women have begun experiencing regular, intense, and multiple vaginal orgasms. As the exercise their pubococcygeus muscles, they are simply becoming more in tune with their vagina and are able to relax the into orgasmic stimulation during intercourse.
Some women begin experiencing what is referred to as ejaculatory orgasms, where they actually emit ejaculate with intense orgasms.
* Pre-intercourse workouts
Many women have discovered that if they use their Kegelmaster about 15 minutes prior to intercourse, that both they and their partner notice an even more satisfying love making experience. While the Kegelmaster is definitely not a sex toy, it can be used quite pleasurably during foreplay.
* Prevention and reversal of early onset prolapse
Uterine, bladder, vaginal, womb prolapse are serious physical conditions that can result in difficulty during intercourse, problems passing bowel movements, and urinary incontinence. These conditions were once thought to be repaired by surgery, but the Kegelmaster has helped many women prevent and reverse prolapse by regular, daily Kegel exercises. NOTE: It is important that you catch any prolapse early and begin Kegelmaster exercises immediately.
* Incontinence
Many women start to experience a form of incontinence that they often refer to as cough-pee incontinent during late term pregnancy. As subsequent children are born, the problem may worsen, but even if there is no problem in this area, future incontinence may be a serious problem.
Ladies, whether you are sexually active or not, young or old, have children or are childless, you can benefit from the Kegelmaster. It is a piece of exercise equipment that you definitely will love.
okay im 15 and i do masturbate maybe 3/4times a week and i think i have had quite a few orgasms, im a female by the way.
i think i get them almost every time i maturbate.
and i know people say that if you question it then you havent had one but it gets really exciting then it happens and my muscles down there start pulsing and cntracting for about a minute then stop.
dont get me wrong its quite pleasuable but its not amazing or unbelievable as many people say, it only seems to last like 10seconds:S.
so what do you think, was it an orgasm?
yes….Yes….YEs….YES…YEEESSS it was an orgasm. The randier you feel, the better they are, so take your time and enjoy. (By the way, Loyless should be called Joyless, if her answer is anything to go by)
After a long relationship, My fiance and I decided to have intercourse. as of right now not a newbie..When we enjoy a nice time together, there is no pleasure to me, I am strictly in pain and When we do it over the phone, It is almost unbelievable how good the orgasm is…He is not rough and nor he is too soft, and Does all the right things before intercourse but I only scream in pain…and there is no orgasm..Could something be wrong with me, could be my pelvic bone, or are the muscles just too tight? I have absolutely no pleasure when he inside..I do love him with all my heart .He is about 12 inches long and tells me its bc I’m tight. I am medically speaking with all do respect! Can someone please explain this to me? thank you!!
by the way…ive had irregular periods before and since dec 19 to feb 4th i had my period 3 times..could something seriously be wrong as i cant get an appointment with my GYN until march 2nd!
Two comments,
<> He’s a pretty “big” guy
<> I think you should probably get a gyn checkup, make sure there IS no actual physical issue for you downstairs.
So I have these orgasms (clitoral) in my sleep sometimes. And they are SO intense – like unbelievable.
Why are they more intense in my sleep than my "awake" orgasm?
You are probably more relaxed and having sexy thoughts in your dreams, I expect you are rubbing your clit too, even if you don’t remember. Its unusual to have orgasms in your sleep, I’ve had one or 2 in 40 years but good luck to you
Virginity for men isn’t something they usually brag about. And I believe my boyfriend, why would he lie about his virginity?
A couple days ago he had his first sex. I’m already rather experienced, but I didn’t care that he would be clumsy, because I love him. And I thought ‘teaching’ would be fun as well
But surprisingly, he gave me the best sex of my life. We did four times that night, and except for the first time, when he was finished within five minute(which was expected), he made me orgasm at least twice on each of the next three. It was unbelievable. I don’t think even experienced men could do that.
He’s 20, and had three girlfriends before me. But as I said, I trust him, and he has no reason to make up story.
Is he just naturally good at making love? Maybe he had lots of knowledge about it, and that made up for his lack of actual experience?
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