I’m so glad to have found this forum. I am 24 years old and have been trying to figure this problem out. I am generally healthy never had any issues and never took any form of birth control until August 08- Depo, I had spotting for the first few weeks then no period and I was THRILLED (although not having sex it was still nice to not worry) toward November when I was due for my 2nd depo shot I was bleeding again and figured it was "wearing off" and everything was normal- Then I had my period for 2 1/2 months! I decided not to get the shot again this time and my doc put me on progesterone pills for 10 days- stating everything would return to normal. I took the pills and the "period-like" bleeding stopped, but the last 3-4 months every time I have clitoral (no penetration- still not having sex) stimulation I bleed heavily for a few hours- clotted, fleshy deep red blood. I’ve been seeing a guy for several months and he must think I’m such a prude because I wont let his hand come anywhere near my vagina because I’d be mortified if I started bleeding all over… this is awful! HELP!!!!!!! I’ve also never had an abnormal pap or issues with yeast ect, but since the bleeding stopped I’ve had white discharge with a musky smell to it and I don’t know what to do- I feel so far from sexy its unbelievable- did I ruin my body with 2 stupid depo shots I didn’t even really need? This is terrible!
You’re not alone! I’ve been having the same problem… I’m 21 and I also had two doses of Depo but decided to get off of it because I hated it. (I gained 15 lbs the first 3 months). It was supposed to wear off in November, but I didn’t get my period back until the middle of February. Now whenever I have an orgasm I bleed approx. a teaspoon of blood just a couple of minutes after.
Over the phone, a nurse at my doc’s office said I bleed after orgasm because of the contractions/spasms that rock the uterus. She doesn’t know if the Depo is related to it. I have an appt to see me doctor Monday, so maybe I’ll get a better answer then? Email me at swizzle05@yahoo.com and I’ll let you know what my doc says!
Hope that helps a little. At least you know you’re not alone in this!
Ok so me and my girlfriend are celebrating our one year anniversary and valentines together. i have exams around valentines day and the week after and our one year is february 20th so we decided to do them both together on the weekend of the 20th.
first off i just want to say that every single present she has ever got me has beaten what i got her. every birthday, christmas so far she has been sooo amazing and done reallly creative things..im not just talking about money spent, but she always takes so much time to make unbelievable handmade cards, popup cards, coupon books, and she always writes incredibly sweet messages so I really want to give her an amazing night in return for all these things. I have an apartment at my university (not with her though) and my roomate will be gone for spring break. i wanted to bring her there and cook her dinner (nothing special, just pasta i was thinking since im not really much of a cook lol) and ive never really cooked for her before and have a nice candlelit dinner. after that i wanted to do presents, one which i was thinking would be a bracelet as kind of a 1 year present, as well as lingerie as a valentines present. before hand (earlier that day) i want to set up nice smelling rose petals in my room all over my bed and have candles all around it. so after the presents i would go into my bedroom, close the door, and ask her to change into her lingerie i got her and then come in when i say its okay. I’d light all the candles and things and put on some soft music and then call her in. and she’d come in wearing her new lingerie, the lights will be dimmed, soft music playing, candles around the room, rose petals all over the floor and bed and i’ll be lying on the bed in new boxer briefs with a rose in my mouth. (she’s said to me lots of times before how much she likes boxer briefs and how good she thinks they would look on me but i have never worn them before. i also know that she thinks the rose in the mouth thing is really adorable and thats why i was thinking of it). im basically thinking of that right now…one thing i have never been able to do is give her an orgasm without her "helping" with a hand if you know what i mean so i would LOVE to be able to do that on that night..any tips on that? any oils or gels that mighthelp? or give her a massage first?
wow that will make for an incredible valentines!
and the orgasm thing, i think you should just spend lots of time on foreplay and touching if you get my drift. a nice massage first myt help too.
Good luck!!!
help! can your vagina bee depressed? im disabled and have been on anti-depressants for 7 years as a pain killer and to help with the situation of becoming disabled, i came off of my anti -depressants 8 months ago and ever since sex has been painful uncomfortable makes me feel dirty, i want to do it in my head but my body doesn’t, i dont get horny i dont even like being touched, before this situation my partner and i were very sexually active for 4 years we would have sex 4/5 x aday even after having my baby i even wanted to have sex three days after having my baby, we enjoyed sex for 6 months after having my baby but i did get ill seriously ill and could only have sex once a week then we moved house and the sex got less and less until we got comfortable we tried to do it and the pain was unbelievable, we maybe have sex twice in 2 weeks, if that. i also have another problem if i do actually enjoy it and orgasm the orgasm causes me severe pain where it makes me cry like contraction cramping pain in my stomach and just under my stomach (the top outer part of my vagina) i have been referred to a gynaecologist, but if anybody can help me in the mean time i would really appreciate it i feel like i am going crazy it is really affecting me in my head please help!
No dear, your vagina doesn’t get depressed. You definitely need to see a GYN if you are experiencing pain such as that!
help! can your vagina bee depressed? im disabled and have been on anti-depressants for 7 years as a pain killer and to help with the situation of becoming disabled, i came off of my anti -depressants 8 months ago and ever since sex has been painful uncomfortable makes me feel dirty, i want to do it in my head but my body doesn’t, i dont get horny i dont even like being touched, before this situation my partner and i were very sexually active for 4 years we would have sex 4/5 x aday even after having my baby i even wanted to have sex three days after having my baby, we enjoyed sex for 6 months after having my baby but i did get ill seriously ill and could only have sex once a week then we moved house and the sex got less and less until we got comfortable we tried to do it and the pain was unbelievable, we maybe have sex twice in 2 weeks, if that. i also have another problem if i do actually enjoy it and orgasm the orgasm causes me severe pain where it makes me cry like contraction cramping pain in my stomach and just under my stomach (the top outer part of my vagina) i have been referred to a gynaecologist, but if anybody can help me in the mean time i would really appreciate it i feel like i am going crazy it is really affecting me in my head please help!
No dear, your vagina doesn’t get depressed. You definitely need to see a GYN if you are experiencing pain such as that!
been seeing this guy and he has not made me orgasm….I’m ready to dump him but I get so hot for him and the foreplays are unbelievable
What are your non-negotiables in a relationship? In other words, what are your deal-breakers? Is not having an orgasm a deal-breaker? If you liked everything else about this guy, would not being able to orgasm with him mean that you would get rid of all of the good things about him? I would recommend talking to him, showing him what you like, etc. Maybe it will happen in time.
Hi guys. I gave my girlfriend her first oral experience this week (eat out). The problem is that after trying 2-3 times, she tells me that she feels an unbelievable sensation, and then suddenly tells me to get off because she feels (her clitoris) "too sensitive" (as if she wants me to continue, but she cant go on).
I tried to not lick it directly after the 1st time. But it always happens. Like she gets to the point where she’s really into it, but then she suddenly starts to push me away and urge me to stop for good.
Does any one know what this happen? It feels sort of frustrating that she seems to be about to orgasm :S
i get a similar sensation when my bf goes down on me,
for some girls it means they are close to orgasm, and when close to orgasm the cliteral area does become VERY sensitive, maybe next time you go down on her and it gets to the same point just switch to your hand and gently massage her.
i use the word gently very stongly, you dont want to be too harsh or she wont want you to go down there again.
Now , when I have sex I often ejaculate but have no orgasm whatsoever. This happens when I haven’t had sex for a week or more. Despite my age I still am very much interested in sex and lust after my wife. Why?
I was married to my first wife for 21yrs. I am now married to my second wife for 371/2 yrs and counting. I’m 80 yrs old and in great shape and enjoy the benefits of modern pharmacy. As for the lollypop sticks, I’d probably break them.
i have not had a orgasm for a while myself, maybe because you lust after wife but she don’t do that in return… sometimes when someone does not show us the love we need it just does not feel the same!!!
I have been sexually active since the age of 16, i’m almost 21.
But don’t think i have ever had an orgasm.
I have been in a 2 and a half yr relationship and had great sex, and i’m now in a 10 month relationship. The sex is unbelievable and i’m satisfied everytime, we also have lots of foreplay, and i’ve got a vibrator. but nothing seems to work. we do lots of different positions, including doggy, 69, on the bed, on the floor, legs in the air, legs together, me on top, him on top, u name it.
Can someone please explain to me what actually happens during an orgasm? and is ‘coming’ different? i know i’ve come, although not many times.
i’m confused.
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‘coming’ and having an orgasm is totally different.
ways you can tell if you had an orgasm;
1.Have you ever felt your vaginal walls start spasming ?
2. Have you ever experienced full-body tingling ?
3. Have you had a strong sneeze-like sensation below the belt – after which you felt incredibly sated and relieved ?
4. Did you go into a series of uncontrollable full-body convulsions ?
5. Did you find yourself with a death grip on the bed sheets during sex ?
6. Have you ever screamed "oh my god" over and over, and your not that religious ?
