I know I haven’t precisely stated a name of a product (therefore haven’t helped "per se"), but first consider consulting a gynecologist subspecialized in stress incontinence, since only subtle differences in manifestation can be very helpful in determining its type (several types, very many subtypes of urinary stress inc.) and the most effective mode of treatment.
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Ob/Gyn resident

"totally refused to have sex with me for the last few years"
Not healthy. She is cheating.

"I am willing to go to counseling but she isn’t."
End of story. You are guys are done within 2 years. Stop wasting you time.
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It is your vaginal discharge.

It is normal.
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Lemme know when you find out btw!

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http://www.ehow.com/how_4785067_do-kegel-exercise-men.html
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For men, the exercises assist in achieving stronger erections, prolonged sex, increased sexual pleasure and more intense orgasm. By mastering the control and increasing the strength of this muscle and then squeezing it at the moment of ejaculatory inevitability thus avoiding ejaculation, a man can experience "dry" orgasms whereby he attains the sensation of having an orgasm without ejaculating. This is the pathway for a man to become multiorgasmic – a natural privilege of women.

With each partner’s PC muscles toned up, sex can take on a whole new dimension of pleasure and satisfaction as they’ll both benefit from stronger kegels. For starters, during intercourse, as the man pulls out from a deep thrust, his partner can squeeze her PC muscles (doing a kegel exercise against a resistant device) and tighten her vagina around his penis throughout the pull-out. An interesting option would be if both partners engage in intercourse that just involves mutual squeezing, rather than thrusting.
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More Tips To Last Longer Given @ My Profile……

No kegels do not help with premature ejaculation. Every man is born with premature ejaculation, so having it is perfectly normal – to start with. Controlling ejaculation is something you have to learn just as you had to learn to control your bladder as a child. We get taught to control our bladders but no one teaches us how to control ejaculation.

Do not waste time or money on sprays, vitamins, herbs, dietary supplements or drugs. This is a learning problem and these things will not help you learn to control ejaculation any more than they can help you to learn to speak another language.

There are a lot of high-priced programs advertised online but all you need is an inexpensive little book written by a doctor and sex therapist that has been used successfully for more than 32 years.

It is called "Lasting Longer: The Treatment Program for Premature Ejaculation" by Dr. Sy Silverberg M.D. For more information just google the author’s name: Dr. Sy Silverberg M.D.
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http://sextherapy-prematureejaculation.com

Some results from Kegels could include firmer erections, even stronger ejaculations. But these do not happen in one sitting. You have to practice for months.

If you want to improve your PC muscle strength more directly; lay down, extend your flaccid penis to its maximum limit (comfortably) straight up (towards the ceiling) and squeeze your PC muscles as hard as you can. Hold this for as long as you can and release. Rest for a few seconds and repeat. Do this at least 25 times a day. Within three months you should notice stronger erections and stronger ejaculations.
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So I looked it up….what do you know, its a couple thing…lol

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kegel_exercise
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http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/kegel-exercises/WO00119#

http://www.medgollc.com/kegel-exercisers/kd-exerciser/kd-kegel-exerciser

Incontinence pads can be used for many levels of incontinence:

Pads for light to moderate incontinence, Pads for moderate to severe incontinence includes larger shaped pads and all-in-One pads are also suitable for moderate to severe incontinence when ease of use is also important.

Everything above is good for on the move and at night but also look into mattress protectors etc.. for the night.

Hope this helps.
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http://arelle.com/products/Pads_for_Briefs/56

Have you ever had problems with obsessive thoughts about any other subjects?
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1) You keep questioning yourself when you know in your heart that you like women.

2) You feel sexually frustrated.

You know, when you fear something and keep questioning yourself about it, of COURSE you’re going to trick yourself into thinking that you’re something you’re not. You’re scared, honey. Don’t be. Look into your heart and be truthful with yourself. Put your fear aside and don’t let it rule you as it is doing now.

Oh and by the way, just because you look at guys and check them out does NOT necessarily mean you’re gay. hahaha Girls do that all the time to each other and it means nothing. It’s just appreciating someone’s beauty. =) This applies to you, I believe.
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Don’t worry! Just be happy with your girlfriend. And most importantly, STOP LETTING FEAR RULE YOU AND SCREW UP YOUR THOUGHTS!

=)

Good luck! ^_^

Average Masturbation Frequencies by Age:
11: 11.1 times per week
12: 9.4
13: 10.6
14: 10.6
15: 9.9
16: 9.6
17: 9.4
18: 8.5
19: 9.3

Erections during sleep are normal, though they don’t usually wake a person up – it is thought that by increasing the blood supply to the penis, they keep it healthy. As you can see, masturbating at least once a day is usual at 18; try doing it last thing at night, and you may avoid being woken at 2-4 in the morning. Explore the jackinworld site to find out how to make the whole experience more enjoyable – masturbating is MEANT to be enjoyed
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